*Special thanks to Tonya Barnett for her contributions to this article as well as Jason Barnaby for sharing
his philosophies with us and being the inspiration behind this article.
Reaching your goals—both professionally and personally—can sometimes be more difficult than you expected. And sometimes it's a LOT more difficult.
Does it stress you out? Do you feel overwhelmed and like things aren’t going your way, especially when thinking about dreams you’d hoped would come to fruition, or goals you thought you’d have met by now?
Well, you can feel some comfort in knowing you’re not alone in experiencing these struggles when working towards reaching your goals! (Even more so with the challenges 2020 brought our way.)
Our on-demand webinar, Controlled Burn in the #NewNow: Fueling the Fire of Your Heart to Burn for You, Your Business, and Your Customers, was just one of the ways that we, at Party Center Software, are committed to bringing those in the family entertainment center community together. Our mission is to help the industry succeed.
This webinar was led by our friend Jason Barnaby, Chief Firestarter at Firestarters, Inc. It was full of not only inspirational support to help you through difficult situations (especially during this time), but also practical tips for how to realize your dreams and become a happier person overall.
Following are five of the top takeaways from Jason’s presentation (and overall philosophy for success) that are practical tips for helping you reach your goals.
2020 began with excitement in our souls and fire in our hearts, ready to work towards and achieve the goals we set for the year ahead.
Unfortunately, just a few months later, an unexpected wrench was thrown into those plans with the onset of a global pandemic.
With many coining this time of feeling uncomfortable and pivoting as the “New Normal,” it’s important to remember that immense obstacles the year 2020 has many experiencing in everyday life, (both personally and professionally) won’t last forever. Motivation and commitment to reaching your goals is easier when you think of the struggles you encounter as temporary obstacles in the way of your journey.
Instead, Jason encourages us to think of this strenuous time on your path to success as “The New NOW.” A time in your life and business where you’ll need to pivot, not succumb to the hardships and give up. There’s no doubt this gives many (if not all) of us an uncomfortable feeling.
Regardless of the situation or reason, this is not the first time—not will it be the last time—you’ll encounter uncomfortable situations in your life, and especially when it comes to your business.
So what do you do when this happens? According to Jason, the answer is to TORCH FEAR and IGNITE HOPE.
That’s right. Get rid of the fear you have of being uncomfortable and spark the hope and good feeling that better days are ahead, you WILL overcome adversity, and you WILL realize your dreams. Do things you haven't tried before. Make the scary leap or decision it might take to bring you over that hump blocking you from accomplishing what you want to.
So how, practically, do you ignite this hope and motivation to make those difficult decisions and potential scary actions that keep you on the path toward achieving your goals? How do you bring order back amid the chaos you might be feeling?
It helps to start by asking yourself these two questions:
You can’t predict every obstacle or uncomfortable situation you’ll be faced with in life and business, but you can do your best to prepare your life and business for emergency situations, so you’re not scrambling to decide what to do, you already have a life and/or business pivot plan in place to adapt to the current situation until regularity resumes.
To prepare for emergency situations so that you continue to be able to work towards reaching your goals, it helps to first document:
Visualizing your goals on paper helps you to realize them in life, especially when you create an action plan for how to achieve them.
If there are others involved, those whose participation and work are involved in you reaching your goals, include them in a brainstorming session for what each person needs to do to make sure the goal(s) are achieved.
It’s also beneficial to discuss with your team potential obstacles and scenarios of adversity you may encounter along the way to success.
Once you’ve done so, separate the potential outcomes of these hindrances into three categories:
Set deadlines for yourself and your team to make sure you're always in the best position to effectively respond to potential setbacks.
Who will do what by when to make sure you’re on track to reach your goals within your desired timeline?
Did you know, according to the National Science Foundation, an average person has about 12,000 to 60,000 thoughts per day and of those thoughts, 80% of them are negative?
Just hearing that made you feel a little negative, didn’t it?
That’s exactly why you need to quiet the negative voices inside
More often than not, self-doubt and inaction due to your own fear are two of the biggest obstacles that can hinder you from reaching your goals.
Stop asking yourself questions formed out of fear or anxiety, such as “But what if…?” or “But what about…”
Quiet the negative thoughts and potential bad scenarios that encroach on your ability to work towards achieving your goals, and respond to those questions with, “SO WHAT?!”
If you find yourself in one of the unfortunate situations you feared, refer back to the questions we discussed previously to bring order back amid the chaos:
Answer these questions (especially question #2) and MOVE ON!
If you quit trying to reach your goals, someone else is going to take your place and reach them instead.
You have to keep going.
Preparation for overcoming adversity is key, but you can’t spend all of your time in fear of/preparing for what “could” happen, you need to spend the majority of your time actively working and completing tasks that bring you closer to realizing your dreams.
The most you can do is your best.
Like Babe Ruth once said, “Don’t let the fear of striking out keep you from playing the game.”
Though technically possible, reaching your goals is usually not a one wo/man show.
Many successful people have a “tribe,” or a group of people who
are there on your journey to success with you to help and support you along the way.
Jason Barnaby states, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”
Who are those people? To find out, think about or write down the top 5-10 people you spend the most time with.
Now ask yourself the following questions:
Which individuals in this list:
If there are individuals you listed as being in your “tribe”, but are not included in the answers you gave to the previous six questions, you might want to rethink who you keep in your “tribe.”
Spending too much time with people you have unhealthy relationships with is not only going to be a hindrance when you're trying to reach your goals, it's also going to hinder you from leading a happy life in general.
As part of his philosophy for success and reaching your goals,
Jason communicates that giving yourself grace is essential to
Life is unpredictable and can often throw challenges your way you weren’t expecting. You may not always be able to control what happens, but you can control how you respond to it.
Don’t overwhelm yourself with stress when you encounter obstacles or pitfalls. Give yourself grace and allow yourself to learn from these moments to help you move forward towards reaching your goals with new found knowledge and confidence.
It’s important to remember to extend this grace to others as well, especially those who may be an essential component of your plan for success.
As mentioned, one of the ways you can overcome some of the challenges you face on the path to reaching your goals is to change your mindset. Thinking positively and not allowing yourself to quit in the face of adversity will help tremendously when working towards making your dreams a reality.
If you’re interested in learning more about Jason Barnaby’s philosophy for success and changing your mindset to help you achieve your goals and become a happier person overall, check out the Firestarters website.